We don't have kids and it's okay - really!
There does come a point when you get sick of well-meaning relatives and friends asking you when you are going to have kids. Does anybody else experience this? Yesterday one of my co-workers kept asking when we are going to have kids and said he doesn't understand why so many couples wait to have kids. I told him that it took so long for Mike and I to find each other that we want to have time to spend together without adding the responsiblity of kids yet. Looking back at the last 2 3/4 years of marriage, I'm so thankful that the Lord has given us that time together without kids. We've moved a lot and been through several different job situations and not having kids allowed us to do all of that more smoothly.
Bottom line: God is in control of when anyone has kids. If I don't think I'm ready, and He does, guess what - He wins and "surprise". If I think I'm ready, and He doesn't, guess what - He wins and we don't have kids. So basically, it's isn't in my control.
Anybody struggle with this same situation? Or anybody realize they've been guilty of doing this to their married friends?
11 comments:
People can be SO RUDE!
I think what it really boils down to is that you have to understand that each person is complete in Christ. We don't need ANYTHING else but Him to be satisfied or complete. Not a husband, not a child, or a super career, or anything except HIM. I think if more of us understood that we would be happier AND more content, grateful for whatever God puts in our lives for however long He gives us. (and we wouldn't ask stupid questions that aren't any of our business!!)
Now, I understand that you might be wondering why I, at 28 wks pregnant, would even comment on this topic, but I hear you, Sandra! Michael and I LOVE being just the 2 of us. LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT. And we are just a teeny bit sad that the "2 of us" era of our lives will soon be changing, but amen to waiting for God to show you what to do. His timing is always best.
Just keep on enjoying your time with Mike as the 2 of you. You are building your family every day that you make your relationship stronger. Marriage IS a family!! Kids are just additions, or "bonuses" as I like to call them.
Happy Couple Time to YOU!
ditto what jenny said!!
hahha I know all too well on this subject!! being here where there's newlyweds everywhere and never a month w/o someone pg...I understand you completely Sandra!!
not much else I can add - jenny hit it right on the nail!! :)
Thanks Jenny and Lindsay - excellent points. I can imagine how you feel about not having it be the 2 of you anymore, Jenny, and I'll be interested to see and hear about all the changes in your life and family once the baby comes. I'll be home in the beginning of July and look forward to seeing your pregnant self. :)
YAY! My pregnant self rejoices at your homecoming! BTW, I don't want you to think that we're not looking forward to being parents!!! All of God's gifts are good and we are very much looking forward to learning and growing and meeting our little Muth! :-)
Jenny,
I'm sure you are so excited. I didn't think anything else. No worries. :)
hmmmmm.... We have the opposite problem. People are usually asking us when are we going to stop having kids. :-)
Richelle,
That is hilarious. You made me smile. Did I hear a rumor that there is another one on the way?
People asked John and me, "When are you going to STOP having kids?" Different question, same rudeness : ) Bottom line is . . . that's a personal decision and question and telling them so IS appropriate.
Brenda
Brenda,
I can see how that would be the same problem. I guess you just have to get to the point of being able to nicely say "thanks, but we decline to answer".
Hey- if you just say we'll stop when we stop having so much fun making them.... they usually leave you alone! :-)
I've also heard someone reply that those of us with "good" genetics have to make up for those who don't.
And, yes, we do have one due to arrive in September. You can pray for me in the excessive heat right now, cause 110ish is never easy, especially not with my portable heater.
Enjoying looking in on your blog when I get the chance- especially your tribute to Pastor Mike and Brenda-- we love and appreciate them, too.
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